Tuesday, September 25, 2007

Late talker

Sean's vocabulary has exploded and he's now pretty much repeating everything we say. He says complete sentences that are longer than 3 words. However, had you asked me how Sean's talking was at his 2 year birthday, my answer would have been completely different. He said words but maybe a couple dozen. The only word combination he said was "mama's car". He's always been on the low end of the "normal" range for his verbal skills. For the most part, I didn't know what a child should be doing and by when. I had the attitude that I was just glad he was breathing. People didn't say anything to me about his lanaguage until after he turned two. Then the questions set in. Shouldn't he be talking more? Are you sure you shouldn't have him checked out for autism? At first I blew this off but the more people made comments the harder it was for me to ignore. Sean didn't show any of the other warning signs of autism but I kept wondering if I was ignoring something just because I was afraid to face it. So when I finally got to a point that ok, maybe I'll just have him checked, the talking increases and now doesn't stop. I don't hear the comments anymore.

Aside from the amazing feeling it is to have a conversation with your child, I wonder about my reaction or lack of reaction to the situation. Did I not act because I truly felt there was nothing wrong? Did I not act because I was afraid that he did have autism? Did I give into the mommy pressure of child comparisons and worry for nothing? By ignoring milestone developments, did I create the situation where my child was a late talker?

Here's the thing. Do I know that I could help his development along faster if I worked hard with him...yes. But I also know he will learn it eventually. I also know that he will learn it faster when he's ready.

I guess we'll see what happens with Keira.